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Resources
DIVORCE & SEPARATION | CHILDREN | ADOPTION | PARENTING
DIVORCE AND SEPARATION BOOKS
Between Love and Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce
by Lois Gold (Penguin USA, 1996)
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What About the Kids: Raising Your Children Before, During and After Divorce
By Judith Wallerstein, Sandra Blakeslee (Hachette Books, 2004)
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The Dance of Connection: How to Talk to Someone When You’re Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate
by Harriet Lerner (Quill, 2002)
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The Co-Parenting Handbook: Raising Well-adjusted and Resilient Kids, from Little Ones to Young Adults, through Divorce or Separation
by Karen Bonnell (Sasquatch Books, 2017)
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Beyond Blame
by Jeffrey Kottler (Jossey Bass, 1996)
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Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes for Your Child
by Ricci Isolina, Ph.D. (Fireside, 1997)
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Mindful Co-Parenting
By Jeremy Gaies and James B. Morris Jr (CreateSpace, 2014)
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BIFF For Co-Parents: Your Guide to Difficult Co-Parent Texts, Emails, and Social Media Posts
By Eddy, Burns, and Chafin (Unhooked Books, 2020)
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Vicki Lansky’s Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope With Divorce and Its Aftermath
by Vicki Lansky (Book Peddlers, 1996)
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LGBTQ Divorce and Relationship Dissolution: Psychological and Legal Perspectives and Implications for Practice
By Abbie Goldberg (Oxford University Press, 2018)
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The African-American Guide to Divorce & Drama: Breaking Up Without Breaking Down
By Lester Barclay (Khari Publishing Ltd, 2013)
HELPFUL DOWNLOADS AND LINKS FOR SEPARATING FAMILIES
Divorce Process Options Handout
Birth - Three Guide to Parenting Plans (SPANISH)
Birth - Three Guide to Parenting Plans (ENGLISH)
Multnomah County Parenting Class (required for all divorcing parents in Mult Co)​
Oregon Child Support Calculator and Contact
Oregon Post Adoption Resource Center
10 Tips for Talking to Kids About Divorce (a blog article by Meg Merrill)
CHILDREN'S BOOKS
My Family’s Changing by Pat Thomas (B.E.S., 1999)
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My Family Is Changing: A Drawing and Activity Book for Kids of Divorce by Tracy McConaghie (Rockridge Press, 2020)
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Why Don't We All Live Together Anymore? by Emma Waddington (Frances Lincoln Children's Books, 2016)
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My Parents Are Divorced Too by Melanie Ford et al (Magination Pr; 2nd edition, 2005) Age 10+
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Dinosaurs Divorce by Laurie Krasny and Marc Brown (Little Brown & Co., 1988) *This book caters to straight families
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Momma Days, Mommy Days: A Story of Love, Change and Hope By Isabella Moreno (Author House, 2015)
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It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear: A Read-Together Book for Parents & Young Children During Divorce by Vicki Lansky (Book Peddlers, 1998)
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Don’t Want to Talk About It by Jeanie Franz Ransom (Magination, 2000)
ADOPTION BOOKS
Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew
by Sherrie Eldridge (Dell Books, 1999)
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The Open Adoption Experience
by Lois Ruskai Melina and Sharon Kaplan Roszia (Perennial, 1993)
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Raising Adopted Children: Practical Reassuring Advice for Every Adoptive Parent
by Lois Ruskai Melina (Perennial, 1998)
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The Family of Adoption
by Joyce Maguire Pavao (Beacon Press Books, 2005)
PARENTING CLASSES, BOOKS AND OTHER RESOURCES
Big Little Feelings - A toddler parenting class
Love And Logic - Parenting classes and resources
No Bad Kids - Parenting class and resources
Attachment Nerd - Parenting workshops and resources
Positive Parenting Solutions - Classes and resources
Neufeld Institute - Intensive parenting classes, on-line scheduled and self-paced
Positive Inside - Parenting workshops and resources
BELONG Partners - Education for parents and teachers; non-profit, sliding scale
Parenting Together - Free parenting classes, Washington county
LifeworksNW - Free parenting classes, Washington and Clackamas counties
MindSight Institute, The Whole Brain Child - 3-hr video parenting class with Dan Seigel
Sproutable - Parenting classes
Allies in Change - Respectful Parenting class and accompanying men's group, sliding scale
Positive Discipline for Pre-Schoolers by Nelsen, Erwin and Duffy
How to Talk so Kids will Listen and Listen so Kids will Talk by Faber and Mazlish
The Power of Showing Up by Daniel Seigel and Tina Payne Bryson
The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Seigel and Tina Payne Bryson
The Step-Family Handbook by Karen Bonnell (2018)
The Remarriage Manual by Terry Gaspard (2020)
*I do not endorse all of these resources, but many families have found them useful.